Good morning. The other night I described a relationship by saying, “we learned a lot about each other and a lot about our selves from each other, but we’re in a good place.” If there is no mutual growth in a relationship good or bad, then what’s the point? Growth and transformation never take place at surface level. These things are always something/somewhere deeper. If we can’t mutually explore the deep, character shaping things of life that ultimately defines who we are, then we’re really hurting each other? For me, there’s an indescribable feeling in the heart when someone close to me sees something in me (good or bad) that I was either 1) in denial about or wasn’t aware existed or 2) not in the right perspective to see it. Regardless, in those very moments, they contribute to my life and essentially make me better. What’s a relationship that only exists during the high and happy moments when it’s the valleys, the darkest hours, and hurting moments that we need relationships the most?
Authentic relationships allow authentic conversations. No secrecy and total surrendering of emotions.
If we go into a relationship fully guarded and remain guarded, the duration of that relationship will not survive past the realities of life – basically not even existing in the first place.
People matter.
Peace – Kimberly